Note: This is a repost of a rant I posted on my Deviantart account on February 2nd 2016. There are a few edits made to this in terms of content to better express what I felt. While I still agree with some ofthe main sentiment of this piece, there are some parts that I no longer believe and that are not consistent with my current beliefs.
Buzzfeed has put out another idiotic video about gender stereotypes despite them being against sexism. Of course what they mean is they are okay with gender stereotyping men but are pissed off whenever it is done to women. Anyway, I’m not a man, but I’ve identified as one for 20 years so i should be qualified enough. Also there are only 29 questions. 7 of them were just rephrased versions of previous questions.
1: How does it feel to be the same sex as Donald Trump?
I don’t know, but probably similar to being the same sex as Hillary Clinton?
2: Why do you hate RomCom? Or do you just feel like you have to hate it? Everybody likes The Notebook, everybody likes Beyonce. It’s just a fact.
Because it is infested with outdated gender stereotypes and cliches, and are overbearing and pretentious; kinda like your site. Also as a woman, both The Notebook and Beyonce are garbage. Learn what “subjective” means, and get some decent taste while you’re at it.
3: Why do you force women to sit around and talk about men in movies when you can easily sit around and talk about boobs for hours?
WTF? How are those even related? Also do you mean to tell me women never talk about men? Also being a woman who likes boobs, i find your lesbian erasure to be downright insulting, which is surprising because it is quite obvious that most of the women they got to ask these questions must be lesbians.
4: Why do you all automatically assume you won’t like TV or movies that star a female lead?
Seriously, have you ever even talked to a man before? Most people grow out of that phase by age 10.
5: Why are you surprised when women are funny? I’m probably funnier than you.
Nah, you’re definitely not funnier than me. In fact, you sound like the exact opposite of funny; unlikable and obnoxious. As for the reason men are surprised when women are funny, it may have something to do with the most famous female comedians also being the absolute least funny people on the planet. I got more laughs from my pet being put down than from Amy Schumer.
6: Why do you think I’m obsessed with you when we hook up? 9 times out of 10, I’m busy and I got shit to do.
You realize that maybe it’s because they are just lonely and desire companionship right? Maybe if you’d pull your head out of your colon then you’d realize the world doesn’t revolve around you. For fucks sake, do you think every guy is like Papyrus or something?
7: Why can’t I sleep with as many people as I want to without being judged? When men do it, they’re congratulated.
To be honest, I’m actually in agreement on this one.
8: Why do you consider a woman a tease if she doesn’t sleep with you after 3 dates but a slut if she sleeps with you on the first?
Has there been any man ever who actually believed both of these things at once? Again I need to ask, have you ever talked to any man ever?
9: In what world does no mean yes? No means no!
Yes, because all rapists are men. Women never rape EVER!
10: Why do you say women are too emotional to be leaders then justify catcalling by saying men can’t control themselves?
Another apples and oranges comparison I see. The two have nothing to do with each other, and there is no proof that most men believe both of these at once.
11: Why do you think that just because you’re nice to me, I owe you my body?
You may not owe men your body, but you owe them your respect at least, and it honestly seems like a lot of these women don’t seem to understand the difference between being respectful to them and wanting to sleep with them. If you talk this way to men in real life than I can only assume that to be the case.
12: Why would you ever send an unsolicited dick pic?
Okay I actually agree with this one to.
13: Why do you feel it is okay to harass women, or make offensive comments towards women, but when someone does it to your sister it’s not okay?
Because people are usually closer to their sister than random strangers.
14: How does it feel to interrupt me when I’m in the middle of making a point during a meeting?
15: Why do you need to sit around with your legs spread out so wide open? I get that you have balls, but you don’t see us with our arms spread out to make room for our boobs.
Additionally, one thing that needs to be mentioned about the whole “manspreading” thing is that, in addition to just finding an excuse to be a prick to men based on something they can’t control, it’s also innately transphobic. I cannot even sit down in public without being self conscious about the way my legs bend, and am made to feel that makes me less of a woman; despite this being something I can’t help. How are transwomen supposed to take it when they are told something about them that they can’t help is inherently sexist? Hell it’s something I’m sure TERFs would have field day with.
14: Why are women perceived as the weaker sex even though we literally birth you?
Because women have less upper body strength and muscles than men, and usually can not beat men in a fight on average.
15: Why is it so bad to show your emotions? It means you’re human.
Because men are shamed for showing them by being called a pussy and are told to “man-up.” They are expected to be strong and dominant. While this is something that feminism doesn’t focus on, I can tell why anti-feminists would get the wrong impression when they are mocked with catchphrases like “male tears.”
16: Why are you always trying to prove your masculinity to me?
Because chicks dig bad boys.
17: Why the *bleep* isn’t it ladylike to cuss? When did words get genders?
Words have had genders for millennia; most languages are based around it. Also it is because swear words are considered aggressive, which is considered a masculine trait. Also if you’re trying to prove you’re masculine, then you shouldn’t censor yourself by saying cuss instead of curse or by bleeping yourself out.
18: Why is it your first instinct to doubt women who have been sexually violated or raped?
I’d repeat myself once again by saying asking if they have ever talked to a man before, but the answer is pretty obvious by now. I don’t want to pull a #notallmen here, but these questions are overly generalistic. Maybe if you called this “questions for anti-feminists” this wouldn’t be a problem, but instead make the assertion that a vast majority of men are MRAs.
19: Why do you assume a woman’s angry because she’s on her period?
Because it is a common side effect of menstruation, and it will be assumed if a woman is being irrational. Even if it wasn’t, periods are extremely unpleasant and bound to cause stress.
20: Why do you think women who wear makeup are false advertising? We can say the same thing about your dick size.
No you can’t considering that a man’s dick size is their actual measurement while a woman wearing makeup is using cosmetics to cover up herself, and thus is not how they naturally look. And did you ever consider that they are saying that you don’t need to put on make up in order to be pretty and that maybe they like you for who you are and can appreciate natural beauty? Well I already know the answer but you get the point.
21: Why isn’t it weird that a bunch of old white guys are sitting in a room deciding what I can and can’t do with my body?
They are deciding what you are doing with the baby’s body, not yours.
(Just to clarify on this one, this statement isn’t meant to take any position for or against abortion. It is more so made in response to the fact that feminists almost always frame this as being about oppressing women while never taking the fact that maybe pro life people view an unborn baby as a human life instead of just “muh patriarchy.” It doesn’t mean they are right, but at least acknowledge there is a fucking argument instead of strawmanning them.)
22: Why are straight guys so obsessed with lesbians?
Maybe because they are curious about their culture and want to know more about it? Or at the very least they find girl on girl to be hot.
23: How does it feel to get kicked in the balls?
I’m pretty sure this is elementary school knowledge for both men and women.
24: Do you ever get tired of trying to be manly all the time?
25: Why are you so afraid of gender equality?
If this is directed towards MRAs then this is a stupid question. MRAs want gender equality, they just believe women hold all the power and want to balance it out. I’m not an MRA supporter, but I’d be lying if I said they didn’t have a point when it came to them being the majority of suicide victims, homeless people, them not having draft immunity, why they are less likely to be taken seriously in cases of abuse and rape, etc.
26: Why do I deserve to be paid less than you?
You know, I’m still waiting on someone to actually acknowledge the whole argument against the wage gap? I have still never heard people counter Sommers argument against it.
27: Why are opinionated women seen as bitches?
Because the word “bitch” is a generic pejorative for anyone you don’t like and opinionated people tend to have a lot of people that don’t like them.
28: Why are you not speaking up behind closed doors when you hear men make jokes that are offensive to women?
Maybe because it’s none of your business what people joke about in the privacy of your own home, and they don’t want to come across as rude or police other people’s speech. Maybe learn that not everything is meant literally and that sometimes a joke is just a joke.
29: Why are you so afraid of recognizing your own privilege? It doesn’t make you a bad person. Just recognize it and do something about it.
I do need to remind anyone reading, and myself, that I am a feminist. However, it is shit like this that makes me regret identifying as one. These women are flat out blind to reality. Most of these questions that anyone, men or women, should have known since elementary school. These are all assumed to be rhetorical, but even the smallest bit of thought could answer these.
Now the thing is that, I am a feminist, but I’m not what is commonly associated with feminism. Do these people think there will ever be any change if they don’t even know what the problem is or if they even know why these stereotypes exist? This video seems to be made with the intention of getting people to think, and this stuff is seriously meant in earnest, yet these girls exist in a realm so outside of reality that they are incapable of seeing what is actually true. There is nothing to debate when it comes with them. They choose to believe what they want to believe. Someone who actually prefers to educate themselves about these issues should already know these answers.
There really isn’t much else I can say. This was just way too stupid for me to form a coherent thought on.
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